After we survived the tsunami of 2004 in Thailand we had a discussion about the things we would have regretted not doing if one of us had died. We both realized is that we really would have regretted not having kids. Some may remember that time in our lives . Soon we found out that Laura was pregnant. It was an emotional time at the beginning but we both soon discovered how "cut out" for motherhood Laura is a well as I for fatherhood.
We were living in Japan at the time and decided that we would return home to Canada as Isaiah was our first child and we wanted to have family and friends close by to help and support us. But us being who we are,we took the long road home, and visited China! Laura really made being pregnant look easy. In fact when we were in China she did almost as much as I did. She even climbed the Great Wall!
Once we returned home she continued to take the pregnancy in stride, working at Rock lake with me in the childrens program for a few weeks until we got settled. She then continued to amaze me by flying half way across the country and attending her sisters wedding a week before hand to help her get ready. She even shared a room and totally sacrificed her wants and needs to help, at 8 months!
After a difficult labor She was encouraged by the doctors to have a c-section. She refused for as long as was she was able but we were finally convinced that it was the only option left. Isaiah was born!
Mothering and nurturing has always been one of Lauras gifts and that gift has grown year by year with her son. Now our place in Vietnam has placed us in an amazing and blessed situation where we can co-parent our son.
Another gift Laura has is an academic gift. Her hard work and dedication to university in the beginning of our marriage and now is what has allowed us to come here and allows her to teach with excellance now. It also makes so much sense to have her teaching here because of the amount of girls in her classrooms. There are perhaps only 2 or 3 boys in each of her three classes of 40!
It is a plan better then we could have made because now Isaiah gets more time with both of us then ever thought possible.How many sons and daughters yearn for their fathers guidance throughout the day as Isaiah gets, rather then just seeing him at the end of the day? How many children fall asleep before daddy comes home, going days without even seeing them for more then 10 minutes? How many parents get "left" with the child and don't have a clue what to do with them? How many of their little achievements are missed? How many children are "babysat" by TV because we are just to busy? How many Dads know what it is like to take care of a young child, to share in their thoughts on everything from boogers to Creation? Our lives are blessed in this area, we do not take it lightly. We can co-parent freely, moving throughout the day getting things done while teaching our son how to become a man.
Now as Isaiah approaches his 5th birthday we are feeling a little sad that we have been unable to have a second child. We have lost two babies early in pregnancy in the last five years but still keep trying. In His time, right?
4 comments:
I'll be talking to the Father about this situation. You guys are both such excellent parents, Isaiah is a very lucky little boy! Thank-you for sharing your hearts. And Jeremy, it is so refreshing to hear a husband speak so highly of his wife.
Great post, looking forward to spending time with you guys!
Prov. 3:5,6.
Matt. 6:32-34.
You guys are great parents, and I am grateful that you share tips with me. I miss seeing you "in action" but am glad you both get lots of time with Zaya. We're at a stage in life where there isn't a lot of chance for co-parenting and it's tough. Cherish the moments you are given.
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